Comments on: Take the sting out of Fear of Failure it’s only a Belief

By: Karmic Ally

Karmic Ally — Thu, 02 Nov 2017 17:19:47 +0000

In reply to Joyce Hansen. Empaths can pick up others feelings and even if one is not sensitive, if the vibrations are at a high level, even a normal person would sense it. I'm glad you realized what was happening and are going to go back better prepared for your appointment.

By: Joyce Hansen

Joyce Hansen — Thu, 02 Nov 2017 00:54:12 +0000

Interesting that I should read this today and have it explain my experience this morning. I was scheduled for a mammogram at a new location. I arrived on time and sat down waiting. When my name was called, I suddenly changed my mind and said I would call for a new appointment and left. It was only later that I realized I was very uncomfortable with the vibrations of the other women waiting. Then I realized from reading your post that I was becoming fearful because I was sensing their fear. I guess fear is more contagious than I thought. Will go back better prepared next time.

By: Karmic Ally

Karmic Ally — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 08:20:09 +0000

In reply to Nathalie Villeneuve. I can see the Law of Balance in play here, Nathalie. It helps to have a husband providing the inspiration to overcome fear and take action to solve problems and I am sure that you are equally inspiring by being the voice of reason. The best way to overcome fear of action is to ask yourself what the real issue is and deal with that first. Then there can be no fear of failure!

By: Nathalie Villeneuve

Nathalie Villeneuve — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 00:41:44 +0000

I agree that fear of failure, fear of success, any kind of fear doesn’t serve us. It’s usually related to fear of the unknown. To me that’s a strong one. You mentioned that fear can turn into inaction and again, I can relate to this one big time. My husband is the opposite and takes action right away. I am glad he has been a great role model when it comes to problem solving and fear. Great article.

By: Karmic Ally

Karmic Ally — Sun, 29 Oct 2017 19:08:37 +0000

In reply to Sue. You are most welcome Sue!

By: Sue

Sue — Sun, 29 Oct 2017 18:39:39 +0000

Good points and resources. Thank you!!

By: Karmic Ally

Karmic Ally — Sat, 28 Oct 2017 08:45:06 +0000

In reply to Beverley Golden. I guess its the primal fight or flight instinct that kicks in when faced with a situation outside of one's comfort zone, Beverley. Acknowledging the challenge and the possibility that the outcome might not be favorable takes the sting out of the situation and allows us to focus on what is doable. Thanks for sharing your valuable insights and perspective.

By: Karmic Ally

Karmic Ally — Sat, 28 Oct 2017 08:41:25 +0000

In reply to Marquita Herald. Fear can be a motivating factor if we know how to face it and get on with the task at hand like you did when it came to heights, Marquita. Wasn't it a triumphant moment? The key differentiator between people who succeed and fail often comes down to their willingness to take the problem or limiting factor by the horn and take action. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

By: Beverley Golden

Beverley Golden — Fri, 27 Oct 2017 20:43:30 +0000

Number 1, ask yourself “what’s the worst thing that can happen” was a life-changer when I learned that in my one of my first art courses, Vatsala. So often the we fear as the worst, stops us dead in our tracks. And often those worst things, are over-exagerations of what would happen anyways. It’s great when we ask ourselves that and then dive in knowing what our ‘worst’ is. I really like your step 2 and 3, as then there is no excuse to step into that fear and hopefully be pleasantly surprised that we do not even have to call on steps 2 and 3. It always amazes me how we humans go to fear as our first response. Imagine all the amazing things people would be giving to the world, if they had the tools and ‘courage’ to face their fears and do it anyways!

By: Marquita Herald

Marquita Herald — Fri, 27 Oct 2017 18:24:16 +0000

Fear was such an issue in my family when I was growing up I have a tendency to be rather dogged in the way I tackle my own fears. For example, I’ve always had a thing about heights, so a few years ago when I was told that the place where we were to gather flowers for the leis we were to make for a hula performance I wasn’t thrilled to learn it was near the top on a steep mountain and the only road up there was a single lane dirt road – no rails – terrifying for someone with height issues.

The first time I went up there I just parked my car at the side of the road and sat there for an hour before I mustered the courage to slowly crawl forward. My whole body was trembling as I tried not to look to the side where there was nothing but air. About a mile in there was a small turnaround and I took it and went back home. It took me 2 more tries before I could make it the whole way, but I did it.

It’s impossible to live life to the fullest and not experience fear on some level. It really is a matter of learning to face our fears and I couldn’t agree more with you about the value of reading Dale Carnegie’s book. Thanks for the inspiration Vatsala!