To create a new beginning, you must first experience an ending. A new year cannot begin until the old one draws to a close. A new chapter cannot begin until another ends. Every end signals a new beginning, it is just difficult to realize it sometimes.
That’s when it’s important to tap into The Magic of Starting Over.
When you lose someone close to you, it’s painful. The end is a sad one, but if you can shift your mindset and recognize it as a new beginning you can accept the incredible memories you made together and look on them fondly. The ability to do that will ensure the new beginning leads to a more fulfilled, happier life.
It’s not just bereavement. When something in your life ends, it can be painful and scary. But every ending can be a new beginning, leading to something better.
How can you turn an ending into a new beginning?
That’s where closure is important.
In psychological terms, closure is the transition away from something old or completed to something new and different. Life coaches, who specialize in helping people make new starts, state that closure of something old is vital to having a positive new beginning.
Many life events have a pre-determined closure. High school and college end with graduation, apprenticeships end when you’ve gained enough experience, and even vacations end when you need to go back to work.
While it’s great to have good memories of these situations, you need to close those parts of your life to move forward successfully.
Like divorce or being fired, unplanned events also need closure, or you will spend more time focused on what ended than on what is beginning for you.
I suggest you avoid negative thoughts or at least reframe them to empower you and not drag you down.
Psychologists offer these steps to gain closure from and ending in life:
- Take responsibility for the ending
- Grieve loss
- Create a ritual
- Focus on your strengths
- Make a plan
No matter the reason why something ended, you need to reflect on your role in the situation and take responsibility for your part.
Did you miss enough work to get fired? If you didn’t spend enough time studying, poor grades in school are your responsibility. Acknowledging your role and grieving what you lost, good or bad, help you find closure before starting a new beginning.
Creating and performing a ritual is a powerful tool to help gain closure. Many religions have rituals spread over a period of days after the demise of a loved one to help the family come to terms with the ending of a person’s life.
Some cultures have rituals to end the old year and step into the new one!
The point is, beyond thinking and talking, and thinking and talking some more, ritual is driven by intention and action. A “symbolic enactment” allows you to utilize your creativity and intuition in order to bypass the intellectual, logical part of your brain.
Get ready to focus on your strengths. Use your strengths to make a plan, so your new beginning is positive and productive.
Every step forward in life is necessary to continue your growth.
When high school ends, college or a career begin. When college ends, a career begins. With every end, there’s a new beginning. Even in divorce, the painful end ushers in a fresh start.
When you start a new job, you have left an old one. Starting a new relationship happens when a previous one finished. When you celebrate your birthday, you are also celebrating the end of another year.
The end of every year provides you with an opportunity to reflect on your journey and decide how to start the New Year positively.
To capture a new beginning, you first must bring an end.
If there is a negative situation at hand and it is beyond your control, you must first let it go before you can begin again.
You have to distance yourself from it, create space for positivity, and begin again. Otherwise, it will interfere with the new beginning dawning.
Before you can properly experience new beginnings you first must get a grip on what endings are. You don’t have to like the ending.
You simply must accept the reality of them. If you cannot accept that an ending makes way for a new beginning, then you are giving up on what could be. You are instead giving in to happiness and regret.
So, I want you to think about things differently.
We get so stuck in our ways; it’s easy to give in to negativity. Resist that impulse. By embracing a new perspective, you can let go of old, negative beliefs that no longer serve you.
If you aren’t willing to take a chance you will never achieve change. You can get a fresh start without letting go of the good things in your life.
The truth is every single end brings a new beginning. It’s up to you to adopt a growth mindset that recognizes that as the fact it is. I want to help you ensure you do so.
There are four words you can use to see every ending as a new beginning.
Those 4 words are “From here on out…”
From here on out…
I will let go of the things of which I cannot control.
From here on out…
I will accept reality and embrace it. Things happen for me; they do not happen to me.
From here on out…
I will be courageous enough to change my mind because it’s just part of life’s process. I cannot grow without change.
From here on out…
I will hold on tight to all of the good things in my life.
From here on out…
I will rest to regroup and reenergize.
From here on out…
I will take a chance and keep climbing.
From here on out…
I will appreciate every lesson.
From here on out…
I will accept that every step I take is a necessary one.
From here on out…
I will celebrate the end for what it is a new beginning.
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- Self-Reflection Journey
- Self-Discovery Journal
- Self-Esteem Journal
- Mental Health Journal
- Visual Journal
These prompts will inspire you to gain clarity and track your personal transformation.
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Make a Life-Changing Decision
So now you have two choices:
- Do nothing and remain stuck in the past.
- Take action and embrace a fresh start with The Magic of Starting Over.
The choice is yours. Why wait?
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