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As women climb the corporate ladder, many of us have been told—explicitly or implicitly—that success means blending in.

Instructions from well-meaning colleagues and bosses to

Tone down your personality.
Pick your battles carefully.
Don’t be “too much” of anything.

I still remember the time when I was looking for a suitable senior position as I was new to the Indian corporate world. My father took me to meet a University friend of his who was well-connected for some introductions and guidance.

The gentleman was kind, attentive and read my resume with great interest. He acknowledged the power of my resume. Then he gave a tip that made my jaw drop.

He told me that when I went for an interview, I should tone down my confidence because it would make the male interviewer feel insecure.

The thing was, I had been a Finance Director of a leading NYSE listed company. One acquires confidence in the course of one’s work.

Later my father wondered, if I was applying for the role of a Finance Director, how would I make the grade if I didn’t show confidence?

I was being told to play a role which I decided I didn’t want to. Fortunately, I did get a job that I was qualified for. The interviewer was looking for the qualities and competencies that I was bringing to the table.

Yes, playing a role can sometimes help you get ahead. But over time, constantly editing yourself to fit in can take a toll—draining your energy, dulling your passion, and even eroding your confidence.

For those of us in mid-to-senior roles, the stakes are higher.

We’ve worked too hard to get here to feel disconnected from who we truly are. Let’s be honest. If we spend most of our waking hours at work, shouldn’t that space also be one where we feel aligned, respected, and ourselves?

The truth is, you can stay true to your authentic self and thrive in leadership—without sacrificing results, credibility, or relationships.

Even better, you won’t feel like an imposter.

You can do so by building qualities such as integrity, discipline, brilliant work, and respectfulness. These qualities will also give you the confidence to handle another challenge women professionals often come across.

The Authority Gap: Why It Matters for Women Leaders

Even in 2025, many accomplished women still face what researchers call the Authority Gap—the invisible but very real difference in how competence and credibility are perceived between men and women in similar positions.

The authority gap is a term popularized by Mary Ann Sieghart in her book “The Authority Gap: Why Women Are Still Taken Less Seriously Than Men, and What We Can Do About It.”

It is the systemic bias that leads to women being taken less seriously than men in professional settings, impacting their perceived competence and authority.

For women in leadership, this can show up as:

• Your expertise being questioned more often.
• Being interrupted or talked over in meetings.
• Having to “prove it again” even after consistent results.
• Colleagues deferring to male counterparts for final approval.

Real-World Examples of the Authority Gap

The Subtle Version
You’re leading a meeting, and a junior male colleague repeats one of your suggestions—only for it to suddenly get enthusiastic agreement from the room.

You smile, acknowledge the point, but the sting is real: your voice was overlooked until it came from someone else.

The Obvious Version
You have been managing a project for months. A client asks a direct question about the strategy. But instead of addressing you—the project lead—they look to your male team member for confirmation. You have to consciously redirect the conversation to establish your role and authority.

The danger? If you start shaping your behavior only to gain validation in such environments, you risk losing the very qualities that make you an authentic and effective leader.

Closing the authority gap isn’t just about external change—it’s also about inner mastery.

When you cultivate unshakable self-belief, clear boundaries, and the ability to project executive presence authentically, you make it harder for bias to undermine your authority.

How to Stay True to Yourself and Excel at Work

Here’s how:

1. Lead from your core values

Your moral compass is your greatest leadership asset. You don’t have to compromise it to be accepted. Stay grounded in what you believe, and you’ll naturally inspire respect and trust.

2. Build bridges, not walls

Being authentic doesn’t mean being inflexible. Practice tolerance. Maintain a cordial relationship with everyone, no matter your differences. It brings peace and serenity to your workplace.

Treat everyone—from the tea lady to the CEO—with equal respect, and foster psychological safety around you.

3. Champion collaboration

Mid-to-senior leaders shine when they lift others. Be the one who draws out different perspectives, smooth’s over friction, and turns diverse ideas into high-impact outcomes.

Tip: Be a team player. Learning to work with your colleagues will make working on projects together easier. Make sure that you take the time to build connections and relationships with others. Play your part in every team you join.

Working in a team allows you to improve skills like brainstorming, negotiating, and coordinating with your colleagues as one functioning team. This will help you develop characteristics like patience, discipline, and forgiveness.

4. Seek challenges that stretch you

Raise your hand for projects outside your comfort zone. Ones that challenge your knowledge and skills. It signals initiative, builds your influence, and keeps you growing.

5. Let honesty be your hallmark

Whether it’s giving feedback, managing resources, or representing your team, transparency earns you a reputation for reliability. That’s a currency that only increases in value over time.

6. Deliver excellence, consistently

Doing your best work is not about perfectionism—it’s about integrity. Part of that is knowing when to ask for guidance, training, or resources to get the job done right. There is no shame in asking for help, as long as you have done your own research first.

Final thoughts

Staying true to yourself isn’t a ‘soft skill.’ It’s a strategic advantage.

When you operate from authenticity, you build stronger relationships and make better decisions. You leave a legacy you’re proud of, while naturally narrowing the authority gap.

If you’re ready to lead with authenticity, command respect, and close the authority gap without losing yourself, then Mind Mastery for Professional Women is for you.

This micro course will guide you step-by-step through the mindset shifts, tools, and practical steps to lead from a place of confidence and clarity.

It’s time to rise without compromise because the higher you go, the more the world needs your voice, not a watered-down version of it.