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Your self-image is how you see yourself — and how you believe others are seeing you.

As a woman professional who is navigating career ambitions, workplace dynamics, and life’s many demands, it’s easy to lose sight of who you really are beneath the roles you play.

Our self-image can often get blurred by external expectations and internalized pressures.

You might identify as a team leader, team player, high performer, mentor, perfectionist, caregiver, mother, daughter, or all of them.

At times, you might even be your own worst critic and experience the pangs of Imposter Syndrome.

But here’s the truth:

You are more than your job title, your responsibilities and achievements.

More than anyone else’s expectations or opinions.

In fact, you are a whole, multi-dimensional person with values and inner wisdom that deserves to lead, make your own choices.

Definitely not sit in the background.

You’re a unique person with nuances that are unique to you!

Why self-image and authenticity matter

When who you are aligns with how you show up — at work and in life — that’s called authenticity. And it’s more than a buzzword.

Authenticity is the foundation of Executive Presence, self-leadership, and sustainable success.

It’s how you are perceived as an authentic empowered leader.

Authentic professionals are more resilient, respected, and confident. They lead with clarity, make better decisions, and build stronger relationships.

But many women professionals feel the tension of trying to be everything to everyone.

The idealization of being a Super Woman leads to burnout, self-doubt, and emotional dissonance.

Living out of sync with your true self can trigger anxiety, guilt, imposter syndrome, and a persistent sense of “not enough.”

When you live out of alignment with your core self and keep trying to meet expectations that aren’t even yours, the emotional cost adds up.

You experience:

• Chronic stress and self-doubt
• Decision paralysis
• Imposter syndrome
• Lack of fulfilment, even when you’re “successful”

So how do you shift back into alignment and reconnect with your true self?

You rewrite that narrative.

Follow these 5 steps to create a self-image that reflects who you really are and not just what your role or résumé says.

Stake your claim to live life on your terms as your true self.

Step 1 Identify your core values

An authentic self-image is rooted in what truly matters most to you. It’s not what you’ve been taught to value or what your industry, upbringing, or peers say.

When your values are clear, your decisions, boundaries, and energy follow suit.

Action step:

• Write down all the values that resonate with you — everything from creativity to loyalty to growth to independence.
• Narrow that list to your top 10 that feel non-negotiable.
• Ask yourself: What values guide me when no one’s watching? Which ones energize me even when I’m exhausted and make me feel proud?

These are your internal anchors that make you feel grounded. They are the starting point for reclaiming your self-image.

Step 2 Determine any inner conflicts

Sometimes, your values compete with each other and create tension.

Conflicting values can quietly sabotage your confidence and clarity.

You might deeply value freedom and security, or achievement and balance.

These conflicts can lead to analysis paralysis or emotional exhaustion.

Ask yourself:

• When was the last time I felt stuck or confused or procrastinated?
• Could it be because two of my core values were pulling me in different directions?
• Are there any values on my list that aren’t really priorities for me? That actually came from family perspectives or shaped by societal expectations and not from me?

The more clarity you create, the more empowered your decisions will be, because you can’t build an aligned self-image on borrowed beliefs.

Step 3 Align your actions to your values

Values only shape your self-image when they’re visible in your behaviour. Otherwise, they’re just idealistic words on paper.

In order to make them real, choose one value and ask: How can I express this in my daily life?

Example:

• If you value leadership, speak up in meetings or mentor a junior colleague.
• If you value well-being, build rest or ‘Me Time’ into your calendar and protect it.
• If your values include growth, invest in your personal development, not just your professional skills.

Every aligned action reinforces the self-image of a woman who leads from within.

Step 4 Choose activities you enjoy that are aligned and reflect your values

Many high-achieving women are so focused on doing what’s “right” that they forget to do what feels right for them.

Try this:

• Make a list of joyful activities that match and reflect your values.
• If you value connection, start scheduling coffees chats with colleagues & friends or join a relevant networking group.
• If you value creativity, pick up a passion project or a hobby you’ve shelved.
• Is growth important to you? Enroll in a course or start a new project outside your comfort zone.

Experiencing joy isn’t a distraction from your goals but fuel for your soul.

5. Reflect and refine daily

Self-awareness isn’t a one-and-done task — it’s a habit.

Ask yourself at the end of each day:

• Did I honour my values today?
• When did I dim my light to make others comfortable?
• When did I show up powerfully as me, even when it was hard?

These small moments of reflection build a self-image based on strength, not self-sacrifice.

Self-awareness is a practice, not a one-time insight.

Ready to reconnect with the Real You?

If you’re done with surface-level strategies and ready to create a career and life that reflect who you really are, then it’s time to go deeper.

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It includes a practical eBook and guided workbook to help you uncover blind spots, shift inner narratives, and become your own best advocate — in work and in life.

Because, when you know yourself, you stop shrinking to fit. You start expanding to lead.

Remember you’re not here to fit in. You’re here to show up as the leader your values have already called you to be.

Make that self-image your new normal.