Do you really know what would make you happy?
We all want to be happy. In fact, even if we don’t accept it, most of the time we are happy until we find ourselves craving for something that others have or get the feeling that we are missing out on something and that takes us to the state of un-happiness until we are able to get back in balance.
Is Happiness an elusive concept that you are chasing?
Last week I received a call from a lady who had found me via Google and had reached my website and decided that she wanted to take me up on a consultation. It appeared that she wanted to become a coach and also wanted coaching. Our conversation soon indicated that she really did not know what she wanted as she dropped the desire to become a coach and decided to be coached all within a matter of two minutes.
We then spent the next half an hour doing a consultation to understand what her goals were and if we could work together to achieve her desired transformations. The lady had gone through a tough time and was seeking direction. So I suggested we take up a key issue.
A recurring theme during the consultation was her lack of happiness even though as a detached observer, I could fathom that she had ridden out the storm in her life and landed on her feet and had much to be proud of.
She had made the best of her situation and yes, at the end of the consultation she discovered a direction worth exploring on her own that would fit in with her lifestyle although as she herself realized, she was not coachable at present and needed to first identify what was making her unhappy.
Sadly, Happiness is not a coachable goal although one can offer guidance to the seeker and suggest some techniques to enable the seeker to find their equilibrium state of happiness.
This post is dedicated to self-help for happiness.
The Art of Happiness
The art of happiness has been discussed in discourses by the Dalai Lama. It is also found in the Bhagavad Gita. Both references echo the ultimate truth that happiness lies within us and is a state of mind.
From my own life experience, I know that being happy attracts more happiness especially when I am able to bring a smile to another’s face from my behavior which is cheerful because I am happy from within and practice compassion for other beings by treating them with respect and understanding. The other person in turn reaches out to assist me in whatever way I require at that moment and happiness multiplies all around.
Happiness and unhappiness are relative experiences or dualities. To achieve true happiness, it is important to rise above the dualities and accept that as we grow, the concept of happiness too changes as with the changing purpose within the soul and hence it is essential to be sensitive to one’s spiritual nature.
It is said in the Bhagavad Gita that
“He who is unattached to the external world and its objects, and is attached to the Inner Self, will attain supreme happiness, which is everlasting.”
In other words, real happiness or ‘anand’ as it is called in Sanskrit is the goal for all sentient beings and until then, all that we are passing through is different states of mind. All sentient beings crave real happiness and strive to achieve it, some ignorantly and some with the help of knowledge. Here meditation helps to open the intuitive channels to gain knowledge of one’s True Self and to determine where our actual happiness is to be found. In touch with our soul, we know what gives us permanent happiness and what changes are required within us to achieve happiness. .
At the same time, to achieve this state of mind, it is important to have an attitude of gratitude for the level of happiness that already exists within our lives to God. It is equally important to acknowledge the acts of kindness that others do for us. By doing both, we start living in an environment which is positive and vibrates with happiness thus attracting further happiness of the type required at that particular moment of time for us.
Programming the mind to accept that the God within us is the source of happiness for us not only raises our positive vibrations but also helps us to achieve all that we want because we begin to believe that happiness can be ours and this in turn makes it a reality in our mind with the subsequent materialization of our want.
Often, where such materialization of perception of what would make us happy does not happen, we start to despair and lose faith. That is the time to analyze the circumstances and engage in self-introspection. Sooner or later you will discover that it would not have been in your best interest and something better and more suited to your wants manifests.
Another post that you might like to read is Make Happiness a Habit where I share some more tips that you can easily implement and get results.
What is your view about being in the state of happiness? Have you ever felt out of sync and had to work on your mind to be happy or reach out for help? I’d love to know more about your self-help tips for being happy.
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